Romance and the new technology
It wasn’t long ago that people would fight boredom by going to the movies, attend parties, or visit friends. In so doing one would kill two birds with one stone; have fun and maybe find a mate. Back then romantic relationships began slowly. First came shy glances then an exchange of few words, followed by perhaps flowers, sweets, love notes and even love songs. Then came the wait for that long awaited moment that they would meet again.
Today, boredom and loneliness are tackled differently. Men and women venture into chat rooms where they communicate by computer. There are also those who go to matchmaking agencies such as match.com, eHarmony.com, etc., and some use "speed dating" services in which men and women are rotated to meet each other over a series of short "dates" lasting anywhere from 3 to 8 minutes.
As one looks back in history chatting is not a new form of romance. Let’s refer to the accurate meaning of the word “chatting” According to Wikipedia the word means mutually exchanging information by writing. Many couples met and fell in love thru letters some even waiting to meet the day of the wedding. How about the want ads that were published in newspapers and magazines?
What happens when couples meet in a chat room? If they click, what begins as a game soon becomes a romance. Today you can send cards, songs, candy and even flowers using the computer, (it's a shame that you can’t eat the sweets or smell the flowers). The “I love you” soon follows and beautiful words are exchanged using the cold monitor.
And so they fall in love, or believe to be in love. Conquered by the constant emails, phone calls, and all the blah, blah, blah that people seeking love like to listen to. What began as a distraction has now become “the” dream, “the” hope. “the” happiness, and more times than not “the” addiction. Passion can also be achieved as many couples believe and practice cybersex and phone sex, all in the name of love.
Then you finally meet the person that you are romancing with. Perhaps she/he is exactly what you expected, and perhaps not, but mostly there is disappointment. Why? The human mind never stops working and is constantly weaving all sorts of scenarios and images that are very different from reality. When we speak with someone on the phone or chat via internet, the brain is busy gathering details from our conversations to complete the puzzle that is the image of the person that we are talking to.
Where is the body language or physical expressions?
Can we find true love in an internet relationship or is it just passion?
As a result of technology are we less romantic or simply more practical?
It does not matter how you meet your partner. Love is not flowers, sweets or love songs. It is not temporary insanity or shortness of breath. It is not an uncontrollable urge to make love every second of the day, nor sleepless nights envisioning kissing every part of your lovers body. That is not true love, that is passion.
Passion is a fire that ignites unexpected, burning trees and then slowly going out, it is then that you decide if what remains is love. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.
True love is what remains after the fires of passion and romance are out. It is the cup of coffee that your partner brings you in the morning. Love is the two of you sharing the bathroom at the same time. Real love is being by his/her bedside when sick, or putting up with mood swings when the hormones are acting up. Love is compromising on what movie to see, it is accepting the other’s views even when totally opposite from yours, it is not changing to please but pleasing in spite of change. Doesn’t sound very exciting, right?
But it is……
Today, boredom and loneliness are tackled differently. Men and women venture into chat rooms where they communicate by computer. There are also those who go to matchmaking agencies such as match.com, eHarmony.com, etc., and some use "speed dating" services in which men and women are rotated to meet each other over a series of short "dates" lasting anywhere from 3 to 8 minutes.
As one looks back in history chatting is not a new form of romance. Let’s refer to the accurate meaning of the word “chatting” According to Wikipedia the word means mutually exchanging information by writing. Many couples met and fell in love thru letters some even waiting to meet the day of the wedding. How about the want ads that were published in newspapers and magazines?
What happens when couples meet in a chat room? If they click, what begins as a game soon becomes a romance. Today you can send cards, songs, candy and even flowers using the computer, (it's a shame that you can’t eat the sweets or smell the flowers). The “I love you” soon follows and beautiful words are exchanged using the cold monitor.
And so they fall in love, or believe to be in love. Conquered by the constant emails, phone calls, and all the blah, blah, blah that people seeking love like to listen to. What began as a distraction has now become “the” dream, “the” hope. “the” happiness, and more times than not “the” addiction. Passion can also be achieved as many couples believe and practice cybersex and phone sex, all in the name of love.
Then you finally meet the person that you are romancing with. Perhaps she/he is exactly what you expected, and perhaps not, but mostly there is disappointment. Why? The human mind never stops working and is constantly weaving all sorts of scenarios and images that are very different from reality. When we speak with someone on the phone or chat via internet, the brain is busy gathering details from our conversations to complete the puzzle that is the image of the person that we are talking to.
Where is the body language or physical expressions?
Can we find true love in an internet relationship or is it just passion?
As a result of technology are we less romantic or simply more practical?
It does not matter how you meet your partner. Love is not flowers, sweets or love songs. It is not temporary insanity or shortness of breath. It is not an uncontrollable urge to make love every second of the day, nor sleepless nights envisioning kissing every part of your lovers body. That is not true love, that is passion.
Passion is a fire that ignites unexpected, burning trees and then slowly going out, it is then that you decide if what remains is love. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.
True love is what remains after the fires of passion and romance are out. It is the cup of coffee that your partner brings you in the morning. Love is the two of you sharing the bathroom at the same time. Real love is being by his/her bedside when sick, or putting up with mood swings when the hormones are acting up. Love is compromising on what movie to see, it is accepting the other’s views even when totally opposite from yours, it is not changing to please but pleasing in spite of change. Doesn’t sound very exciting, right?
But it is……
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